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Cukur Rambut, Hospital Bill, Circumcision and Language

Fri, 17th April

Tufeil turned 3 weeks yesterday!!

and he had his cukur rambut (shave head) just now. We called the Sri Nada guy to come over to our house and paid $30 for his service. We havent weighed nor converted into gold tho. The culture in Pak would pay in Silver. He said its because guys can’t wear gold. But they cant wear silver either can they?

Oh yeah and i also received the FINAL HOSPITAL BILL yesterday.

The first one came was for me. The delivery suite charges, ward, food, medicines, etc came up to S$3,570.98. But after a government grant of $1,513.60, and antenatal claim of $417.55, my Medisave account paid 100% of it and even had a balance of $238.62 due to me! Alhamdulillahhhh

But i cldnt rejoice yet until i got Tufeil’s hospital bill. 1 day in Neonatal ward class B2 = $75. 5days in Special Care Nursery Class C = $1,225. Total $4,279.80. Total payable after government grant = $0.

Alhamdulillah. I am sooooooooo thankful to God I don’t hafta pay anything. I was worried cos i heard a lot of pple had to pay some $3 – 4k!! But because I had gone thru the polyclinic route n got all those grants. The one and only downside of it was Husband could not room in with patient in the ward before n after delivery because it was a B2+ ward shared among 5 patients.

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We have so many things to do. After the Cukur rambut, we hafta think about circumcision.

Actually i’m not totally convinced that we should get it done during his infancy ie before he starts to crawl. Although I agree that there would be less hassle doing it earlier, I feel that the boy needs to experience it when he’s older and better appreciate the meaning of it.

But then again, the trend is for babyhood circumcision and i would risk making the boy feel insecure or be bullied / tormented by his peers by doing late. I know i’m thinking too much into the matter and should just get it over with.

However, the Question now is WHEN and WHERE can i do it? Then a relative said something about the Ring method will not give a nice…. hm… er… effect as opposed to thread. ERRRRR???? I have no idea, no idea at all! HELP!

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Although sometimes its irritating when Zubair stopped me from speaking in Malay to Tufeil, its kinda cute that he wonders, “What if he dont know how to speak Urdu and talk to me in Malay?”

LOL. I told him to just keep talking Urdu to baby and he will understand and speak it to the right person. I gave Fara’s children as example. They automatically know what lang to use to speak to which person. And he was comforted. I hope. haha.

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Reported Speech

Wow. My blog has been quiet for some time.

I was on course for the past 2 days. I’ve been waiting to go for this one a very long time man! Minutes of Meeting @ the British Council PDC centre which happends to be just 8 floors above my office! Nice.

I write minutes for the almost weekly dept meetings. While my boss said its exactly what he’s looking for.. i feel like my format and/or technique is not quite right. Is my grammar correct? Should i be noting certain points down, like is it imp or not or can it be skipped? etc…

REPORTED TENSES

I wrote before in this entry :

Is it correct to say “She WAS my consultant”? Whereas she is NOT dead and
still IS a consultant.

How about “She was the winner of YESTERDAY’s contest.” Wouldn’t using a
past tense mean that she is not the winner anymore? But the contest happened
yesterday~ :S

The presenter told us that TRADITIONALLY (meaning what we learn in sch) is this way:

“Dialogue” => Reported speech

“I write minutes” => She said she wrote minutes
“I wrote minutes” => She said she had written minutes
“I am writing minutes” => She said she was writing minutes

etc etc….

BUT a group of linguists think that the first reported speech doesn’t make sense if the person STILL writes the minutes. Therefore, it is ALSO acceptable if you write it this way:

She said she writes minutes.

It is IMPORTANT tho that you be consistent.

No wonder i was sooo confused. Wah and to think that i came up with the same reasoning as these linguists. Cheeebah. LOL

PREPOSITION

I wrote:

Should i say “Can i speak to _____” or “Can i speak with _______” ?

Why is it I’m not IN the office but i’m AT home? When office and home
seems to be the same kind of place you go INTO?

The lecturer said that there’s no logic in the English Lang. As in there’s no formula to remember which word is accompanied by which preposition or whatever. All u can do is refer to the dictionary. A good dictionary (eg: Oxford’s dictionary for ADVANCED learners) would give example for each definition.

We learnt that same word with diff meaning can lead to diff sentence struction eg: “Approval”

1. Liking something / somebody. Eg: John’s mother approves of his fiance
2. Agree to something. Eg: The board approves the minutes of meeting.

Something to that effect. It was CRAZY i tell you. I kept making the mistake of writing “to discuss ON the terms” when it should have just been “to discuss the terms”. You only add ON before its noun ie “The discussion on the terms”.

Note-taking & summarising

I also learnt 4 diff styles of minute taking in the form of a table/seat plan, mindmap or blank sheet. But the one i like most is the A4 Minute book with columns like Who, What, When.

Reminder to self: Always start a new topic / agenda on a fresh page. In case they get back to that topic, u can add it in easily.

When summarising, no need to include arguments, jokes bla bla bla… Its our duty to be impartial, leave out the unnecessary and spell out the conclusion.

How to Write them Down?

There are 3 types to write down the minutes: Narrative, REsolution and Action.

Resolution will only write the decisions made or resolved problems. Only relevant to board meetings.

Action minutes will only list down the list of actions to be taken.

Narrative, the most common, tells of who says what as well as who has to do what.

There is no hard & fast rule how the layout of the written minutes SHOULD be. But you should list down:

  1. Date & Time
  2. List of Present & Absent participants
  3. Title of meeting

You can have two column tables or numbered points with bullet subpoints. You can be concised, or you can write as much detail as you want. You can write in TRADITIONAL reported speech or the modern one (as long as you’re consistent). This all depends on the CHAIR. Clarify with him/her how he’d like it to be or refer to previous style or both.

3 types of Tone Register

There are Strict, Professional and Informal tones in minutes.

Strict is for when you sit in Board Meetings – Imagine a Judge. Professional, like a management meeting. An Informal is like one between friends.

Strict / Professional / Informal

Appended / added / tacked on

Reiterate / insist / urge

Note: It is important that you keep the consistency of the register through out your minutes.

Rights & Obligations

We always have this traditional image of a minute taker. A silent lady at the corner of the room with her legs crossed and a notepad in hand.

I didnt know that its ok to:

  1. Ask Q to clarify what the presenter meant. (chances are you’re doing the rest a favour too)
  2. Stop the chair from proceeding to the next point so u can finish writing

etc etc…

This is useful so that you can write ur minutes down more clearly. You know, i used to audio record the whole 1.5hr session of the meeting. I had tried listening back to the track but very diff to pause n rewind, i gave up.

It’s also important that u take 5min or so to go thru ur notes in “downtime” of the meeting (eg: pple joking around) or right after the meeting so u can fill in info gaps.

There are lots more that i’ve learnt in those 2 days i cant simply summarise in this blog. You can msg me tho.

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The training was a small one consisting only 8 pple. 7 of us clicked very very well. It is the first time i went for lunch w coursemates. Bcos i work in the same building, I am the designated tour guide and brought them to Amoy St on first day then Lau Pa Sat on the second. 3 of us lives in the north so we even went back together!

One is 6 months pregnant. When pple ask when she’s due, i cldnt help but add, “Then u hafta ask me when im due also.” They never fail to look surprised to know im 5 months pregnant! Im not showing just yet.

one or two of them have been complaining of how tiring this training is. A lot of Work. I cldnt disagree more. i LOVE British Council trainings. They are always interesting and Keeps you involved with lotsa hands-on practices. Granted, the lecturer is a bit rigid/strongly principled.

It’s a shame that the friendship ended there. The lecturer forgot to take our emails to be circulated. Oh right.

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OMG! Was that a Pick Up Line?

We just finished lunch at Sakura, Yishun.

Zubair is supposed to head down to Chinatown but i begged him to accompany me in the train ride home 3 stations away. Thankfully he agreed although that means he has to go up and back down again to Yishun, wasting about 25min.

So i walked the 5min track home alone. Just as i exited from the MRT. A guy, in his late 20s, i’d say, clad in Malay Baju Kurung holding a folder filled with $2 notes, greeted me with a Salam asking if i’d like to donate to a Needy Children’s Charity.

Guy: Hal Anti minal Madrasah? (Are you from Madrasah / islamic sch?)
Me: *nodding* (while I’m not exactly IN madrasah, im a graduate from there.)
Guy: Ayyi madrasah? (which islamic sch?)
Me: Ma’arif
Guy: Oh Ma’arif

I dropped a note and started to move.

Guy: Mas muki? (what’s your name?)
Me: Julissa
Guy: Oh Julissa. Ana Irwan Shah (I’m Irwan Shah)
Me: Ok *and walks away*
Guy: OK

I bet this wouldn’t have happened if Zubair was with me.

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My English Grammar Deteriorates

See… im not even sure should i put

  1. Deteriorates or
  2. Deteriorated
  3. HAS deteriorated

I have always had a problem with preposition.

  1. Should i say “Can i speak to _____” or “Can i speak with _______” ?
  2. Why is it I’m not IN the office but i’m AT home? When office and home seems to be the same kind of place you go INTO?

Worse… not sure should i use Simple present or past tense!

For example,

  1. I AM an ex-student of ________ or I WAS a student at ________
  2. What’s the difference between “I walked a mile” and “I have walked a mile”?
  3. Is it correct to say “She WAS my consultant”? Whereas she is NOT dead and still IS a consultant.
  4. How about “She was the winner of YESTERDAY’s contest.” Wouldn’t using a past tense mean that she is not the winner anymore? But the contest happened yesterday~ :S

Question: What other special words would “regulate” a tense other than “TO”?

But i most definitely am irritated when pple use Past Continuous tense somewhat wrongfully? Although i’m guilty of it myself.

Eg: I was telling him that he should do it like this.

Shouldn’t it be, I TOLD him to do it like this. Because Past Continuous tense is supposed to be used when somehing else happens / happened (help!) while a certain action is carried out. Like, “I was walking down the lane when the rain started pouring down.”

Anybody could clarify this for me? Or should i go back to school?

It’s a wonder how i managed to scrape a B3 for English at O level and a C6 for General Paper at A level. Mind you, to pass GP is rather…. lucky? tough?

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